Both I and Eric have written some great articles in our From Relationships,
Marriages, to Divorces blogs. However, we have been so busy writing
articles for others, that we haven’t discussed what we think of each other
articles. Well, in our new weekly features, we’ll respond and ask questions to
each other, on some of the content that we posted in our blogs. One person will
ask and the other will respond, and this pattern will alternate each week.
Ramses: Eric, in your article, Listen
Up! you stated that one of the four types of listening was
relationship-listening. In addition, you indicated a sub-category, therapeutic listening,
or in your words "a special type of listening". Do you feel that this
type of listening benefits men or women more?
Eric: That is an excellent question. I think therapeutic listening
benefits both men and women equally; they both receive empathy and support,
which isn't gender-specific. Now in terms of amount of usage, I believe that
women can benefit more from therapeutic listening, so that they can understand
men better.
Ramses: My take is that in most relationships, women talk at least
50% more than a man, and the man usually does 50% more of the listening. In
other words, you state that therapeutic listening allows a spouse to "'get
things off their chest'", with "the emphasis on understanding the
other person", but how do you think more women can apply that when they
listen to a man without cutting them off in mid-sentence and possibly leading
to an argument? (Feel free to state things linking to your other articles to
emphasize your points).
Eric: I believe that more women can apply therapeutic listening, by
focusing more on what men say, rather than by interrupting the men, when they
conjure up a response before the men
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