Meeting Her Conditions

 After having a deep conversation with my former brother-in-law, I now have a better understand of women, and what qualities that they look for in men. Thank You Mr. Fluker. One of the things I learned about life is that in order to change something (or anything) in life, the conditions for it to change must be present. In other words, according to Mr. Fluker: "you can't change anything in life, without changing the conditions surrounding it first." This is true in many aspect of your life, such as losing weight to be fit, getting into a university or a graduate program, or for precipitation (or the lack thereof) to fall, or women. Speaking of women, this is what this note is mainly about. Once again, Mr. Fluker informed me on this about women: "you can crack any women in life, if you meet her conditions."  It does not matter what type of women, if a man can meet a woman's or meet women's conditions, then he has the best chance of dating and possible establishing a relationship with her and them respectively. The challenge is to find out exactly what a woman's conditions are, and then to continuously meet those conditions. I learned that although every woman has different conditions, they ALL have similar conditions. This is the breakdown of the four similar conditions that women look for in men:

1. Women like nice things (doesn't have to be too expensive, but as long as a man is well-dressed and put together, whether it is a t-shirt and jeans, to a suit).
2. Women like Security (women want to know that the man (or men) in their life can be a protector and a provider for them, as well as any potential offspring. They want to feel that a man can provide for them mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually (optional), and psychologically).
3. Women like Sex Appeal (women like the man to have this. Dictionary.com defines sex appeal as: immediate appeal or obvious potential to interest or excite others, as by appearance, style, or charm).
4. Women like men with confidence...with a slight swagger or "swag" (this is obvious. Women want to see, feel, taste, smell, and hear the confidence of a man. For some men like myself, this will take some work and practice, but this condition for men is easily attainable). 

Bonus: Women like to know that they like what they see (this simply means that the man wants a woman to know that she likes what she see in him, if he meets the four conditions aforementioned).

One thing that Mr. Fluker stated that really enlightened me on women was this: women spend so much time throughout the day looking good or looking acceptable for society's standards. One would think why would women care about what society thinks how they should appear to the world. The reality is that women do care. A woman cares about how she looks not necessarily because she is trying to impress men, but rather because she is trying to appease other women. Women judge other women's looks profusely. With that being said, a woman spends hours in her day or throughout the day on trying to look her best. When it comes to a man, she may feel that if she is spending time looking her best, then a man should spend time looking his best, albeit a man usually does not spend as much time. Women want men to recognize their beauty; however, if a man looks just as nice, then a woman will also recognize his beauty in their own way.

On a side note: men should create their own space. When they have the confidence and swag, they create their own space and protect their own space. When a man establishes their own space, they create their own aura and then invite women into their space, while still protecting their space from others invading it.